Individual Therapy
IN CALIFORNIA
Helping individuals of all identities and cultural backgrounds create the life that they desire
Does this feel familiar?
WHEN THINGS ARE GOOD, IT’S GOOD. BUT WHEN YOUR LIFE FEELS LIKE A HOUSE OF CARDS, A SMALL BUMP IN THE ROAD CAN MAKE EVERYTHING COME TUMBLING DOWN. AND YOU ARE AFRAID OF LETTING PEOPLE KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT OKAY.
The world sees you as someone who has it all – a good education, a thriving career, loving friends and family, and you are either enjoying an incredible relationship or a thriving single life. You are so good at getting things done and you tackle life's challenges with finesse. You feel like you should be content and grateful for all your blessings, yet deep down, there is a sense of unhappiness. You constantly compare yourself to others, are chronically stressed out, and imposter syndrome sometimes rears its ugly head. There’s a pressure to be better and do more. You wonder, 'Am I doing enough? Will I finally feel content when I reach that next milestone?' Your negative thoughts live in your head, making it hard to get good sleep at night, and you are constantly try to push it down. You feel embarrassed to admit to other people that you’re not as confident as you seem.
What does it look like to struggle with emotional intimacy?
You try to think and problem-solve your way out of your feelings
You avoid or distract yourself from feeling your feelings by working, scrolling, or snacking
You think you will feel better once you accomplish your to-do list, but there’s always an endless number of things to do
You’re afraid of not being productive
You have a hard time relaxing
You use humor to laugh about your problems
You get really uncomfortable and avoid crying in front of others
You struggle with confrontation
What does it look like to have Oldest Child Syndrome?
You act like a parent to your parents and psuedo-parent to your siblings
You’re resentful towards loved ones
You put the needs of others before your own and don’t see how that could change
You identify as a people-pleaser
You struggle with perfectionism
You’re physically and emotionally burnt out from taking care of everyone else
You have a lot of responsibilities and high expectations
You struggle to trust and depend on others because you didn’t really get the chance to
You struggle to set boundaries
What does it look like to have imposter syndrome?
You question whether you’re good enough and doubt your abilities despite a long list of accomplishments
You feel uncomfortable with praise/affection/empathy/being the center of attention
You are afraid of telling people about your struggles because they might confirm your fears
You’re very self-critical and set impossibly high standards for yourself
You have a hard time relaxing
You struggle with low confidence and low self-esteem
You have a poor work/life balance
Discover who you are and learn to love that person
Your life doesn't always feel like your own. You have obligations to your loved ones that sometimes turn to resentment and guilt. There is hardly any 'me time' in your schedule, and self-care looks like taking care of other people. You don’t own your time, your work/family/friends/kids/committments do. Saying ‘no’ has either never happened, or didn’t make a difference. You hold yourself back from sharing your inner thoughts and feelings. Maybe you don’t know how. You’re afraid of being a burden. And when you try to open up, it feels like people don’t understand.
But you want to be heard. You want to explore these negative thoughts, and to feel safe admitting that sometimes you are not okay. You want to discover who you are, and learn how to face life’s challenges with courage and confidence. Let’s make long-lasting change together.